Id, Ego, Superego…

Lines from SEX and the City that control my life:

1. What i hate in life, i love in bed
2. I don’t pick the wrong person, the wrong person picks me
3. What we are in bed is who we are in life
4. Maybe some aren’t meant to be tamed, maybe they need to be set free till they find someone just as wild to run with

im the type of person who easily adapts to the environment, a chameleon, i should say. people envy me for my focus. im a neat freak guy but id like to go and get dirty at times. i have been described as a diamond because when a situation calls for it, a different MAC unfolds.

im the epitome of contradiction, at times i would even contradict myself. i may be quiet at times but i could shout at the top of my voice and could even give the three tenors a run for their money. i can be generous, very generous, but at times i could give scrooge a hard time.

im the submissive type but at times im ferdinand marcos and adolf hitler combined, talk about dictatorship. im the loving type but i could be as ruthless, that you wouldn’t know what hit you. im the strong one in any group but i could be as helpless as a kitten, i may look weak but watch me lift tons of documents. lastly, im the loyal and faithful type of partner, that i bet you cant and i cant contradict.

im a survivor, after what ive gone through, a lesser person would have succumbed to defeat.

ive had my share of relationships, but im proud to say that ive loved them all, to the point of sacrificing my life and happiness. But thats me….

to the last person (from the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) who broke my heart and shattered it to pieces, i only have this to say..thank you for the wonderful and painful memories..as much as i would want to erase (delete) you from my past, i just cant..because of you, i realized what im worth..and i thank you for showing me my real value in this world..sad to say you lost a very rare diamond..lucky me i added another CARAT.

“I lost myself to be found”

Yes, i’ve said goodbye..finally. After a zillion sleepless nights, countless crying episodes and perennial pity fests, i’ve had enough. The last straw was when i realized my eyebags seemed to have taken over my face, my quality of work has plummeted like the peso-dollar exchange, and i’ve discovered that my social life is almost extinct, So i’ve done what any smart person would do: slammed on the brakes to self-destruction and stepped on the gas onwards to a new life-on my own. In fact, with all the self esteem up lifts and self confidence boosters i’ve given myself, i feel that i can take on the world.

Mistakes of my life:
1. Holding on when everybody else would want me to let go
2. What I thought would make me stronger actually led to my destruction
3. When I thought I knew everthing…made realize that the one thing I really know is that I don’t know everything
4. I thought I have found love but to my surprise I found something that has been lost a long time - MYSELF.

Living in another part of the world made me realize that indeed, I am Well-Loved, Happy and Grateful. To my Significant Other, More Years to Come and Let Us Conquer the world TOGETHER, Forever…

What is love? “ Love is a feeling you feel when you feel that you’re going to get a feeling that you never felt before.” For me, whatever that is, it surely isn’t love. Here is another. The Romans considered Cupid as their god of love. This chubby boy had wings, and flew with bow and arrows. Whenever Cupid shot with a gold-tipped arrow, his victim fell blindly in love with the first person encountered. Could that be TRUE LOVE???

Do you know that the shortest and most profound statement of love is found in the Bible? Just three words: “GOD is LOVE” (1 John 4:8). “ NO, not that kind of love,” someone objects, “tell me about romantic love— the hugging and the kissing love.”

That is LOVE we are talking about! We should take into consideration that all true love —parent for child, husband for wife, and GIRLFRIEND and BOYFRIEND— are all true love comes from GOD. That tender emotion, that ability to desire, that capacity to caress was implanted in our being by the creator, God. He is the source of love, and if love comes from God, it can be comfortable in the presence of him…. But for everything that God has made, the devil has improvised a counterfeit. Love’s counterfeit is INFATUATION. The big question is: How can one differentiate the counterfeit and the genuine???

*Infatuation is ruled by feelings, but love’s feelings are ruled by principle.

In infatuation, the feelings are in charge, but the problem is that our feelings easily change. Today, I feel great that’s why I kiss her. Tomorrow, I feel bad that’s why I don’t want to talk to her. That’s not Love. Love is not composed of feelings only, It is feeling plus principle. Love shouldn’t be controlled by feelings.

*Infatuation is blind, but love sees and examines.

Like Cupid, infatuation is blind. It can’t see and doesn’t wish to see. When a girl recognizes that her boyfriend is hooked on DRUGS, but still proceeds with the relationship and has plans of getting married, Cupid has wounded her.

One concrete example for us TEENS is, when a guy observes his girlfriend FLIRTING continuously with other men, but still goes ahead with the love affair, infatuation has blinded him. We should remember that True Love uses its eyes to see the weakness of the prospective partner. It is not afraid to ask hard questions or to do difficult examinations.

*Infatuation is in a hurry, but love takes time.

Everything of permanent value in life takes time. Infatuation is ever in a hurry: see her today, court her tomorrow, and marry her the day after! It’s “love at first sight.” “It’s puppy love.” And I believe that “PUPPY LOVE LEADS TO A DOG’S LIFE”. But while this puppy love is in a hurry, TRUE LOVE takes time—time to know and time to grow. Knowing a person always takes time and there is no “short cut”.

*Infatuation is obsessed with externals, but love is concerned with internals.

“Puppy love” is obsessed with the figure, is a slave for fashion, and is intoxicated with sex appeal. In fact, where infatuation reigns, sex dominates the relationship. True love admires the figure, appreciates the appropriate fashion, and anticipates sexual intimacy with the bond of marriage. True love is also concerned with personality, the kind of person the partner really is, and it pays attention to the character and the inner self.

*Infatuation is childish, but love is mature.

Infatuation is self-centered and has no concern for other and just wanted to be satisfied whatever the risk is. True love is other-centered and it is concerned with the welfare of one’s partner.

I am inspired to make this article because based on my observation and experience, true love loses it’s meaning and a lot of hindrances are coming our way. So to be able to have a successful relationship, we need to cultivate in ourselves what love is really all about.

I hope this blog would enlighten our minds on how we would differentiate love from infatuation. I made this to open our hearts and have a different view on what love is. I hope we have learned something with this, and sooner rather than  later, would help us establish a strong bond of relationship.

To special people searching for that unique person in their life, it hurts to love someone and not to be loved in return, but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. Maybe, God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.

Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance in a relationship and find out you still care for the person. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go. When the door of happiness closes, another opens but oftentimes, we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one, which has been opened for us.

The best kind of a friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word and then walk away, feeling it was the best conversation you’ve ever had. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives. Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they’ll love you back! Don’t expect love in return. Just wait for it to grow in their heart, but if it doesn’t, be content it grew in you. There are things you’d love to hear that you would never hear from the person that you would like to hear them from, but don’t be so deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from his heart.

Never say goodbye if you still want to try- never give up if you still feel you can go on. Never say you don’t love a person if you don’t let go. Love comes to those who still hope although they’ve been disappointed, to those who still believe although they’ve been hurt before, and to those who have the courage and not, to build trust again.

Don’t go for looks: they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth: even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Hope you find the one that makes you smile. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything- they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches…

YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE and this goes for you!

-You can’t navigate me. I may do MEAN things, and
I may hurt you, and I may run away without your permission, and you may
hate me forever, and I know that scares the living shit outta’ you
’cause you know I’m the only real thing you got.

TO MY DEAR FRIENDS,

-As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn’t supposed
to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken
probably more than once and it’s harder every time. You’ll break hearts
too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You’ll fight with
your best friend. You’ll blame a new love for thing an old one did.
You’ll cry because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose
someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love
like you’ve never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset
is a minute of happiness you’ll never get back. One day that person
will wake up realizing how much I really mean, when that day comes,
I’ll be then waking up with someone who already did.

-Mac

 “If there is any possible consolation in the tragedy of
losing someone we love very much, it’s the necessary hope that perhaps
it was for the best”. –Paulo Coelho

Its the silence that tells it all. Sometimes its not about the yelling and the tears. All it takes is for two people to sit beside each other and feel that something is wrong, that what was there before isn’t there anymore, maybe because she’s the one who gave you reasons to fall out. Realizing that indeed they’re miserable when they’re apart but they’re much worse when they’re together.
And that there are only two options left…
Either they sit still and ignore the pain, or one gathers enough courage to stand up and walk away. Sometimes Reality Bites. You’re not meant for each other no matter what tremendous efforts have been exerted.

It’s so damn hard to deal with emotions when you want to touch someone but you can’t. There’s nothing you can do about it. No matter how hard you try to distract yourself, how you try to smile and laugh it out, It still comes to that point where you find yourself alone even in a happy crowd. Helplessly missing that one person you love most, "YOURSELF".

There are times when I wish that I was limited to certain emotions so that I’ll never have to experience pain, never feel betrayed or disappointed, and never get my  fragile heart broken. But the same thing means that I’ll never know how it feels to love and be loved in return. The thought of it kind of scares me. To have a heart that’s whole but numb, or a heart that’s broken but real.

Bottomline, When your feelings get strong for someone, it’s always wise to stop for a while and give your heart a time breathe. A time to use your mind, to weigh the situation based on reason not on emotion. Because the saddest thing that can happen is when one falls in love while the other wants nothing more than friendship.
And i quote, "Love can sometimes be magic, but magic more often than not is just an illusion".

-Marc Lester F. Quintana R.N.